Just Kink? My Conversations with Vanilla-Kink Submissives

 

What’s vanilla-kink?  I’ll first tell you what it’s not.  It’s not heavy bondage (B).  It’s not heavy discipline (D).  It’s not heavy sadism (S). It’s not heavy masochism  (M).

You’re beginning to get the picture? 😉

“Vanilla-Kink” is “BDSM-light”, or “Pop-Culture” kink, i.e.,  it’s a soft version of BDSM: blind folds, light bondage (handcuffs, etc), light pain (candle wax, spanking), anal sex, role-play (the mean teacher/naughty student; the perverted, deranged doctor, etc).  Vanilla-Kink is a lot more popular than both hardcore BDSM, and even consensual slavery within a Female-led relationship w/ a twist of BDSM (yours truly). 😉

What distinguishes vanilla-kink from consensual slavery?  Power dynamics outside of the bedroom.

For the vanilla-kink submissive male, BDSM is light and temporary; his “submission” ends when the lights come on.  He’s a male who wants a vanilla Woman in the day; and a dark, domineering Diva at night.  His “submission” is erotized in that it is her sex, not her “Person”, that inspires his submission.

For the slave, on the other hand, his submission extends beyond fantasy-fulfillment. He doesn’t want a Woman whose dominance is compartmentalized to the bedroom; he yearns for a Woman to command him beyond the sheets.  He wants to live for something beyond himself.  He wants a reason to toil and work hard and he wants Her to be that reason.

Vanilla-kink submissives who call Me often despair at the difficulty in finding a Woman to fulfill their submissive fantasies.  If he doesn’t want to hire a professional Mistress (aka: Top/Dominatrix/Domina) he’s stuck with having to find a vanilla Woman who’s sexually turned on by top-serving him in the bedroom.  (A “Top” is one who gives pleasure to the other— the “Receiver”, or, “Bottom”.)  If he has a partner already, it’s possible he could use persuasion, hoping that “love” will inspire her to top him.  (I’ve offered successful advice for how to broach this subject with a partner.  Sometimes it works; sometimes it doesn’t.)  That being said, it’s likely to feel sterile and mechanical if the desire to do this is not authentic.

Anyway, read My advice to My single, vanilla-kink submissives inside in the Private Journal of the Member Area.  The solution I offer will shock you.  It’s a simple solution and one that’s very contrary to what you’d expect.

Have a great weekend!

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